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1021 E. 78th Street
Chicago, IL 60619

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"Pleasant words are...healing. "   
 |  March 27, 2015 |  READ: Pr 16:24 NAS 

BUILDING TRUST AND INTIMACY IN COMMUNICATION (2)

               
For effective communication: (1) Make use of the "eye-gate."  Eye contact stimulates the brain's social-network circuits, decreasing the stress hormone and increasing the sympathy hormone. Intentionally looking at the other person  enables you to quickly respond to the seven basic facial expressions-anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, contempt,  and happiness. These are keys; use them. (2) Express appreciation. The first words you speak set the tone for the entire interaction. A single compliment can create trust. Loyola University researchers found that when people in conversation are in basic agreement, interaction between them are experienced as mutually satisfying. Alternatively,  disagreement immediately creates defensiveness in the listener. So begin eac
h conversation with a compliment, and end it with a phrase that convey some genuine appreciation. Research demonstrates that remarks made at the end of an interaction are especially effective because they can linger in the hearer's mind d. "Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul (emotions) and healing to the bones." (3)  Keep it brief.  Our conscious minds retain only a tiny bit of information, which is good "booted out" of our memory as new information is uploaded. So it's better to speak a sentence or two at a time, then take a breath. " Let your words be few" (Ecc 5:2 NAS).  If you think a lengthy conversation is needed, let you listener know in advance. This process we prepares them to focus, and ignore the inclusiveness of their own inner self-talk.